"In our culture we live in our heads.  We have demeaned and denigrated the body and it's wisdom and it's intelligence...  It's helpful, I think to distinguish between the intelligence of the head and body.  Intelligence of the head excels at analysis.  It sits apart from the world and observes and analyzes and systemizes and it seeks no relationship.  It seeks to know everything around it, to name everything around it and there is a comfort in that. It gives us the feeling that we 'know' everything around us and if I know everything around me, I don't need to feel.... The Mayan culture believed we have two brains.  The one is the head and the one in the pelvic bowl and they were intended to work together.

"~Philip Shephard


A person might say breathing comes naturally.  Thank goodness it does because many of us are working from sheer instinct to do it.  Do you do much more than shallow breathe when you're driving? Take a look at the driver beside you when you get to a light.  Are they breathing or holding their breath?  Are they really looking at what?s in front of them or are they staring with a glazed look on their face?  What about when you're trying to remember passwords to get into you accounts?  How is your breathing then?  How are you when it feels like someone is scolding you?  Do you hold your breath?  Maybe you scold them right back.  Scolding and shaming can come from old wounds that may have been put there from even before we were conceived.  Our own nervous systems may well have been affected if our parents were producing excessive levels of unhealthy cortisol because they were experiencing difficulty in their lives about three months before we were born.  The same applies to our entire gestation period, our birth and the first seven years of our lives.  A natural reaction is to want to reason things out instead of feel them when our nervous system has experienced a lack of support, even from the most loving and well-meaning parents.  This reasoning often is fuelled by a primitive need for survival and comes from a child like mentality.  As adults the person  will find every reason to make their behaviour seem logical because it really makes sense to them.  It feels like it keeps them safe from threat.  That is not bad behaviour, it's their nervous system working at the level it was able to develop.  We see it all the time, some people handle difficult situations more maturely and with greater ease while others struggle and flounder about. The one that holds themselves more steady has likely had more support, if it was in their earliest days or if they sought it out as adults.  These disruptions can affect relationships, forward motion in life and can create chronic health problems. The history of a wounded person is nearly impossible to untangle without help because the responses have been there from the beginning and they feel natural  and logical. 


These kinds of reactions to life can come from even before our time here.  Our ancestor's struggles and unresolved trauma can also live in us.  To learn more you can go to the family and ancestral tab and the ?workshops' tab where you can watch a video of a family and ancestral ?constellation? being done.

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