Sometimes we are at the mercy of our birth imprints. We can offend people by interrupting when they're talking or doing something or we are offended when people interrupt us. Our organic impulse to move respectfully and thoughtfully would have been interrupted if we didn't get to have a natural birth, if we had interventions such as drugs, forceps, suctioning, epidurals etc. or if things during our gestation were frightening or disruptive. A baby?s brain and nervous system moves more slowly than an older child?s or adult?s until they are about seven years old. This imprint will likely stay with us until we see and have a chance to work with it because it is encoded in our neuro- biology. So, it isn't always that people don't want to hear us, it can be something like they can't hear us because the information coming and going in the person's brain has gotten confused.
I was given an opportunity to exercise patience with a couple of people this morning as I walked down the gravel road in my little town. A couple of people came barreling down the road with dust flying everywhere and I had no protection as a pedestrian. Just after that, another person came along and slowed down, being conscientious of what he was doing. Before I learned of birth imprints I might have labelled the two experiences as, I had an encounter with a ?nice? person and I had and two other encounters with ?jerks?. There could be plenty of reasons why each of these people behaved the way they did but I would be curious to know what their birth history was. The one that slowed down may well have had more nurturing or parents that recognized his need to slow down and didn?t push him beyond his capacity. The other two might not have had the gentleness they required to let their nervous systems calm down. When that happens to the developing baby, there is a good chance the fragmented nervous system will respond in a mis-attuned way and the person may have difficulties in social settings.
Our nervous systems can be overloaded by something as simple as our mom trying to make us laugh for too long when she was playing with us or tickling us too much. These are examples of how a person?s nervous system can be impaired to a greater or lesser degree. The child?s nervous system can be regulated if the parent can recognize that the baby is being overstimulated.
The good news is that we can build new neural pathways.
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